Odds are your listening skills stink…
Granted, I don’t know you. So why would I say something so offensive? To shock you and get your attention, of course! Face it, if in fact you’re not a good listener, then I need to do something special to engage you, don’t I?
Not to mention, it’s probably true! (There I go trying to get your attention again…)
Before you get the impression that I think I’m better than you are, let me say…
As a listener, I have my good days and bad days.
The bad days are when I fall into my old habits, habits I developed because no one taught me how to listen. It’s on those days that I focus mainly on MY point, MY perspective, and MY agenda. It’s on those days that I wait to talk instead of actually listening. And it’s on those days that I feel discouraged because of unresolved disputes, bitter arguments, and biting comebacks.
The good days, however, are when each conversation deepens my understanding of the other person and strengthens my relationships. It’s on those days that disagreements are opportunities for growth and progress, that differences are celebrated instead of feared.
It’s on those good days that I follow a few simple listening guidelines which I’ll now share with you.
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